Where do we get the idea that if WE don't forgive people, THEY suffer?
It's nuts! (I use to think like this. You hurt me and you will suffer)
Let's say:
a) You are my boss and you give me the sack, or
b) You are my girl and you run off with my best friend.
So I say, "I'll NEVER forgive you!"
Who suffers?
NOT YOU!
I get the knot in my stomach.
I lose the sleep.
You are probably out partying!
While I resent you, I SUFFER!
Meanwhile I tell myself, "I'm right!"
But being "RIGHT" doesn't guarantee happiness.
It's nuts! (I use to think like this. You hurt me and you will suffer)
Let's say:
a) You are my boss and you give me the sack, or
b) You are my girl and you run off with my best friend.
So I say, "I'll NEVER forgive you!"
Who suffers?
NOT YOU!
I get the knot in my stomach.
I lose the sleep.
You are probably out partying!
While I resent you, I SUFFER!
Meanwhile I tell myself, "I'm right!"
But being "RIGHT" doesn't guarantee happiness.